My mother passed away was she was only 60 (I was 31) and this December, I lost my father who was 84 years old. Although my Dad suffered from Alzheimer’s disease, he would never forget to tell you how proud he was of you and how much he loved you.  He would always ask what he could do for you even when he was bedridden.  At his memorial, my sister-in-law said the most difficult thing about losing your parents is that you lose your #1 cheerleaders.

My dad was my #1 Cheerleader. He would always say that God made you strong enough and tough enough to handle anything.  I was blessed to have two extraordinary parents who always thought that I was beautiful, smart and well-equipped regardless of the circumstances. They loved and supported me unconditionally, and I am keenly aware that this is a gift that many do not receive.

So, what do you do if you do not have parents or a loved one to provide this unconditional support and encouragement?

Become your own cheerleader!  Fill your mind with positive things and encourage yourself when you are trying something new, doing daily tasks or tackling a difficult situation.

Personally, I even give myself real high fives.  I say “great job Jules” and slap my palms together high in the air.  You are always with yourself, so encouragement and affirmation are also always with you if you choose.

As you begin this new year, consider becoming your own biggest cheerleader.  Also, thank those who cheer you on each day.


Julie Davis-Colan